Reality Fairy: Goals & Strategies for 2017
2017 is very close. New year, new you? Fresh start? New chapter? Of course not. Don’t be ridiculous. The universe doesn’t give two shits about humankind’s timekeeping systems. Problems won’t magically be resolved at the stroke of midnight on Sunday. Politically, things will still be shit. There will still be global warming, racism, death, and people who believe Fox News. In the larger scheme of things, 2017 is going to be pretty fucked.
So let’s stop the magical thinking and the dreaming and face reality.
Most of us have control over ourselves (I’m aiming to not be ableist and also recognize mental illness). And while it’s great to have resolutions or goals, in our plan for the new year we’ve also built in some strategies for just getting through 2017 in one piece, sanity intact.
Cole and I did some mind-mapping (more info on the process here). Below is the part which pertains to me. I admit, I have a few things I left off because this blog is available to the general public, but you get the bulk of it.
So here’s some more reality for you: resolutions such as “get fit” or “go out more” or “write more” or “read more” are bullshit and can easily be argued out of. That what gets measured gets improved. So, I gave myself some metrics. “Write more snail mail” is no good. “Write a minimum of 5 pieces of snail mail per month” is better. I want to see my friends more. I have friends down here I haven’t seen in years and I have no excuse other than I suck. So, I need to see two friends per month. I started that early and saw two friends this week so December is taken care of and I feel successful as hell. Gold stars for me.
I have a variety of tracking systems that I will be using: a handwritten journal, Goodreads, and Habitica to name a few. If you have metrics, you need to track them. Goodreads allows you to set up your own reading challenge for the year. Fantastic. I’m generally trying to diversify the authors I read (i.e., less white guys thanks) and I may even try to do the Book Riot Read Harder Challenge 2017. Cole and I are exceptionally shitty at getting out of Pasadena (other than Disneyland tbh) so we will explore 6 new (to us) neighborhoods in 2017.
I intend to drink at least one glass of water per day. I’m so shitty at that. It’s the simplest thing but I fail repeatedly and I’m ashamed because I’m a goddamned adult. But I’m trying to be better.
This mind-map, this having-a-plan, is both a self-care strategy and a self-preservation strategy. 2016 caught a lot of us off-guard. If you are my friends or family, you know that I have Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD) and even though yes, I’m medicated and it’s managed, it doesn’t mean it goes away completely. Having a plan makes me feel prepared and like I have a chance at not only surviving 2017, but perhaps a bit of winning at 2017.
I want you to survive too. And thrive. And win.